We are of the Teefer
I am having one of those 'yellow school bus' semesters. When mommy feels like a caged animal enduring uncontrollable stressful stimuli, government sponsored daycare starts to sound really good. My issues against sending the kids to school are... it still would be 'school' the kids would be going to, and I've a baby to take care of anyway. But why am I complaining so much? I know plenty of moms that endure so much more than I.
I know a big part of the problem. While my children are well-socialized, I clearly am not receiving the amount of adult interaction and recreation I need. Couple this with the fact that my energy expenditures to educate and raise my children aren't valued or defined as 'work' and my own identity ceases to exist. There is no more, "Hi. My name is Tiffane." There is only, "We are of the Teefer", and until the kiddos fly on their own, I maintain an unshakable yet understandable identity crisis.
I know a big part of the problem. While my children are well-socialized, I clearly am not receiving the amount of adult interaction and recreation I need. Couple this with the fact that my energy expenditures to educate and raise my children aren't valued or defined as 'work' and my own identity ceases to exist. There is no more, "Hi. My name is Tiffane." There is only, "We are of the Teefer", and until the kiddos fly on their own, I maintain an unshakable yet understandable identity crisis.
posted by Tiffane | 9:05 PM
4 Comments:
You too? It's been one of those weeks. Let's get the kiddos (and us!!!) together soon!
Somewhere between your life, my life, and Tom's life is the perfect balance.
I really don't know how you cope with three kids. I can't cope with a hypothetical only child..!
Go ahead and send the older two to real school. You don't have to do it forever, you know. Heck, we turned out ok going to public school, right??? :)
Besides the fact that an institutional school would take less than 15 minutes to tick me off, I've still got the most difficult and demanding child with me... the toddler. She's cute, but our nifty arrangement ended soon after birth.
We value our freedom. Unfortunately until John gets his law degree, my own freedom is very limited due to finances. I don't have family near by to drop off the kids with. My mom isn't really up to the task anymore especially now that there are three of them. Babysitting and fun stuff often costs beyond the budget. In the meantime, I will continue to value my children's freedom. (Now if only the little tot could go to school... ha ha ha)
Oh, mama. It does get easier as they get older. I promise!!
Hang in there...
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